When I was younger, I made a lot of my own clothes. I liked the solitude, the quiet contemplation of sewing, the creative outlet. Most of the time, I liked the finished product, too. But one day I realized that I didn’t actually like the process overall. So I packed away my sewing machine and took up thrift shopping instead.
I still hauled out the machine when we moved into a new place and needed curtains or bedcovers. Have you priced these things in stores? Crazy expensive for something that’s so easy to make.
Sometimes, Alan would see me at work on the latest set of curtains and say, “I thought you hated sewing.” And I’d say, “I do. But this is OK.”
Strangely, for a person with my analytical skills, I never really sat down to sort out this contradiction. Until one day, I was looking through a book of sewing patterns, designed by a woman who hates making buttonholes or putting in zippers. And I thought, “Hey!” Because those are the two parts of sewing that I, in fact, hate. Which is why I was able to make curtains and duvet covers all those years – no buttons or zippers required.
I’ve started making some of my own clothes again and I’m actually enjoying the process.
I’m not telling you this because I think you should take up sewing, but because I think we would all do well to be more analytical in our decision to like or not like something.
Because every time we move something, be it a person, activity or food item into the Don’t Like column, our world gets just a bit smaller. The longer that Don’t Like list grows, the narrower our horizons become. Eventually, we’re not going anywhere or doing very much and we wonder why we’re bored and lonely.
I’m going to be much more careful about what I add to my Don’t Like list. I want to keep my horizons as wide open as possible, while still avoiding the aggravations of sewing buttonholes.
What about you? Have you tried something recently that you thought you wouldn’t like? What was the result? Are you willing to edit your Don’t Like list?