Celebration Friday – Good Enough

We are a society of improvers, constantly exhorted to try our best to be our best.  We want to give our kids the best, to get the most out of life, to make the most of every opportunity.  From high-school coaches to business mentors and lifestyle gurus, people make entire careers out of challenging us to give it 110%, to push  further, grow bigger, get more and more and more.

Not that there’s anything wrong with improving your life, your house or yourself.  It’s just that trying to improve everything all the time gets pretty exhausting.  It might be good once in awhile to make a cup of tea, sit back and assess the situation.  Does it all need fixing?  Does everything really need your attention, or are some things good enough?

Good enough.  That’s a loaded phrase these days, isn’t it?  Somehow, in the hands of those coaches and mentors, it’s come to mean the exact opposite.  It’s come to mean not good enough.  We are told not to accept good enough, to see it as a negative, to reject it in favour of the best.

Does Everything Have to Be the Best?

But, honestly?  Does everything have  to be the best?  Does your home have to be as clean and organized and styled as it can possibly be or would good enough be, um, OK?  Your weight and fitness level – do you really need to be up to Olympic standards or can you be content with staying healthy and fitting into your clothes?

Financial experts are great at this.  Not only, they tell us, do we need a million dollars in assets if we ever hope to retire, but we need to have them NOW!  Which seems a bit overachieving if you’re not actually going to need them for another twenty or thirty years.  Wouldn’t being on the path to comfortable work?

I started thinking about this when I realized that Alan and I have been living in our current apartment for nearly a year and a half.  That’s a long time for us.  Our usual pattern is to move into a place and work like mad to get it fixed up and ready to sell.  Not this time.  We’ve done a bit, but we’re, for a bunch of different reasons, taking it slowly this time.

It Feels a Little Funny

And even though it feels a little funny not to have everything done and I am sometimes a little embarrassed about the state of our floors, it’s actually OK.  I have time to look around and appreciate the little details of this place – the way the sun comes in the windows, how the garden is developing.  And I have the time to think through what really needs doing and what I just think needs doing.  We’re saving a ton of money by taking it slowly.

The curtains in the photo were a quick fix to hide really ugly paintwork and a not very inspiring view.  They’re made from the fabric that was wrapped around our Ikea sofa-bed.  I never really intended to keep them.  I was going to make “real” curtains right away.  But other things took priority and they’re still there.  They do what they were meant to with the added bonus that early-morning sun and late-night shadows look beautiful on them.  I think I’ll keep them for awhile longer.  They’re good enough.

In my living room is my parents’ old love seat, circa 1982.  I painted it to cover the ugly fabric, meaning it to be a temporary fix, just till we could find something better.  That was about five years ago.  It’s comfy.  It fits the room.  It probably won’t be featured in a decorating magazine anytime soon (I used to be a design blogger – these things matter to me) but it’s good enough.  It’ll stay.

It Comes Down to Knowing Your Priorities

I think it comes down to knowing your own priorities and limits and allocating your time and energy accordingly.  If you want to be a huge success in business, you may not also be able to win the marathon.  If you want to be really well-read, you might not be able to devote endless amounts of time to your career.  And if you want great relationships with your spouse, your family and your friends, you might have to leave the office once in awhile or let the dishes pile up a bit.

Yes, we want to fix up our apartment.  We also want to be solvent and occasionally go out for dinner.   Slowing down the renovations will let us do that.

Good Enough Really is Good Enough

You cannot do it all.  It’s mean to yourself to even try.  Most times, good enough really is good enough.

So to celebrate this weekend, I suggest fixing yourself a cup of tea or pouring a glass of wine and making a list of the things in your life that truly are Good Enough.  Then post it on your fridge to remind yourself how great you and your life really are.


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13 Responses to Celebration Friday – Good Enough

  1. sandy says:

    love this blog.
    love your apartment!
    love you!!
    have a great weekend!

  2. Kim says:

    Boy do I love this post!!! I am becoming more and more happy with good enough, and it feels pretty great 🙂

    Thanks for writing this…it’s perfect (and I won’t smile and tilt my head…promise)

    Love ya

  3. Barb McMahon says:

    Thanks Kim! Your ‘good enough’ is pretty darned great!

  4. Alyson says:

    Oh, I liked reading that a lot. Thanks, Barb.

  5. teresa says:

    you are enough – exactly as you are

  6. teresa says:

    I have the quotation above (I forget who said it) on my computer desktop to remind me to give myself a break. Thanks for reminding with your post.

  7. Lou says:

    I’m sitting in the apartment we remodeled 2 years ago & my window shades (TempShades, $5 each @ Lowe’s) are getting tatty. They were a temporary expedient when we were totally tapped out after the reno, and now they are beginning to tear. I’m going to put the ones from the guest room in the recycling bin (privacy does matter) & replace them with the same thing. Like your expedient, they filter the light and provide privacy. At this rate we may never have “window treatments” and who cares.

  8. Barb McMahon says:

    Good for you, Lou. My prime rule of decorating is ‘Please yourself first’.

  9. Heidi Ruttinger says:

    Wow, Barb! You and I must be cut from the same cloth (that bit that comes around IKEA furniture, perhaps?) or maybe it’s a September 1st thing! I struggle with reining in my creative tendencies…those which my pocketbook cannot imagine keeping up with! The trouble, I find, is that my ideas are actually ones that will contribute so positively to that sense of calm I seek. While my house isn’t anywhere near perfect, I find that disorder disrupts me. I feel uncomfortable when there’s stuff on the kitchen counters leaving just a small square to operate in. I actually trip over the kids shoes when they’re left on the mat, a 4 x6 foot ‘welcome in’ area. I don’t feel welcome in my own place when it booby-traps me upon entry. Can you relate? Thankfully, I putz through it, and so does Jim, and the kids too, however minimally! Retirement looms in the near future (say, 3 years), kids are finishing school bit by bit, and I do remember my mum saying that there’ll be a time when you wish for that messy house and people running through it. Wisdom in that, as well. Thanks again for sharing your lovely writing and thinking, Barb. I always enjoy ‘reading you’!

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