I woke up to the sound of rain this morning. And it melted all my ambition, just like that. There were dishes to do from a dinner party last night, things to clean, business, um, stuff to move ahead on…
If I keep listing it all, I’m gonna need a nap.
I’m a huge fan of Allie Brosh of Hyperbole and a Half fame. And this one is my current favourite post, partly because I’m convinced I’ll never be a real adult, either. I regularly (whine)brag to Alan about my (in)abilities at Cleaning All the Things. I spent an inordinate amount of time yesterday trying to decide whether it’s better to half-clean most of the things or mostly clean half the things. Before that, I was all happy about my new life and getting the house sorted and working on my garden. But then I hit the wall and decided to mostly clean half the things, expecting to be an adult again today.
But then it rained.
Any day that starts out wet and misery-inducing gets what it deserves. So, instead of cleaning any of the things, I dragged a table up from the basement and put it together in the bedroom (it was in pieces – that’s the only way it fits through the doors). So now I have a spot to do some sewing and work on my cards without having to clear it all away every time we want a meal. I also don’t have to do a weight workout today, cuz, holy crap! That thing is heavy! Plus, now I don’t have to torture my husband with moving it this weekend.
I also got caught up on some correspondence/Facebook and got started on some sewing projects I’d like to have ready should the long slow Spring we’re having round here ever actually take off into summer.
And here’s what I’ve learned about Avoidance. It’s not really the sinful time-waster the productivity coaches or your teachers/parents/boss will tell you it is. It can be amazingly productive. Puttering about, not doing what you “should” be doing can knock an amazing number of little annoying tasks off your to do list. It’s also how your brain rests. I go into avoidance mode when I’m tired and haven’t been paying attention to that. So I potter, I do little tasks, I play. And somehow, I usually also end up doing the things I set out to avoid doing without really feeling like I’ve had to be an adult and actually do them.
Be gentle with yourself when you’re avoiding something. There’s far more going on there than you’re giving yourself credit for.
Please share your favourite avoidance activities with us. It’s always good to add something new to the repertoire. And have a lovely weekend!