Category Archives: Uncluttering

How to Decide What to Keep

Yesterday we kicked your fear to the curb.  And now you’re all pumped up and ready to clear out the crap.  Yay!

Is this too many?

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The next point to stymie you will probably be the question: how many of these should I keep?  These being towels/plates/sets of bedding/books/shoes/etc/etc.

You use them, mostly, sort of in rotation.  Plus some of them match, so shouldn’t you keep them together?  Even though there’s really no room for the entire collection all at once???

Breathe, people.  I’ve got a system for you.

What it comes down to is space and how much you have.  Hopefully, you have somewhat more than you did yesterday, but cupboards, closets and bookshelves seem to fill up so easily.

Let’s start with the towels.  Most of us have waaaaay more than we need.  It’s a fairly simple process to figure out how many you should have.  How many people live in your house?  How many towels do you go through between loads of wash?  What’s the highest number of overnight, towel-needing guests you are likely to host?  Add that up and give the rest of your towels away.  Srsly. Even if they match.  Keep the best and donate or sell the rest.

There's too much of something in here...

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Here’s how it works:  in our house, there are two people.  Because we like to do full wash loads, I reckon three towels each is a safe, generous number.  Plus the two overnight guests we have room to house graciously and we have eight towels.  Luckily, I have room to store that many in the bathroom.  If storage were tighter, I’d get rid of two of them.

Now you know the process, you can apply it to the piles of everything in your house. 

For those collections of things that aren’t subject to the daily use factor, like books/shoes/holiday ornamentals, try taking a look at the space available for them.  Once the bookshelves/closet/entire freaking basement has been overrun, it’s time to cut back, weed out and otherwise take control.

Could be tidier

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And if you’re hoping to pare down, it’s helpful to make the space available for these items smaller.  Remove a set of bookshelves.  Limit your shoe collection to one shelf or shoe organizer.  Put the ornamentals in a box and get rid of whatever doesn’t fit.

Some of you might be freaking out about now, thinking about the fact that if you keep only what you need right now, you’re going to have to replace some of this stuff someday.  And, yes, you will.  Some of it.  Some day.

But in the meantime, you’ll be able to save money by living in smaller digs, taking in a roommate, or renting out storage space in your currently over-stuffed garage.

Let’s say this purge lets you move to a smaller apartment, one that costs a hundred bucks a month less than what you’re paying now.  It hardly seems worth it, right?  When you could save so much more hanging on to all those extra towels so that in five years you can replace the ones you’re currently using ABSOLUTELY FREE!!!!!

Um.  A hundred bucks a month is twelve hundred dollars a year.  In five years, do you really think it’ll cost you SIX GRAND to replace a couple of towels?  Especially if you’re really smart and get them at a thrift store.

What we use and no more

OK.  Now I’m really pumped!

But what if you have no desire to move?  What if you’re fine with your current financial situation?  Your stuff to space ratio needs no improvement as far as you can see?  Then you, my dear, can take a pass!  Put your feet up, wiggle your toes and enjoy your home just as it is. 

We unclutter for a reason.  And if none of those reasons exist for you, then uncluttering would be a waste of time.

How to Handle Your Fear of Uncluttering

Now that the cooler weather is here, a lot of you are digging into your closets, uncluttering, lightening the load.

Fear of Uncluttering will not win 

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Or trying to, anyway.  You’re doing fine until that nagging question slips in to your brain: But what if I need it someday????

Trust me, I know this question.  I have listened to it way too many times.  I have let it direct me to restack, repack and store away more useless crap than I truly want to admit to.   But I am learning some strategies.

The first is to hit it with statistics.  Fear, and you know that’s what this question is, right?  It’s fear.  And it hates statistics.  Because they prove that the fear has no basis in reality.

So here’s the statistic.  In my many years of uncluttering I have never needed, missed or even remembered 97% of the stuff I let go.  Not even for a second.  And neither will you.

That other three percent?  I found a suitable replacement in no time flat. 

I'll just leave this here till I need it...

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OK.  If statistics haven’t knocked fear out completely, it’s time to hit it with some logic.  Fear hates  logic even more than it hates statistics.

But what if I need it someday????  Leaves open the possibility that maybe, possibly, yes, you might need some of it some day.  And so because of your fear of that remote possibility, you hang on to an endless amount of useless crap, crap that doesn’t serve you, crap that adds to your stress, crap that you have to pay good money to house, support and care for while it gives you nothing in return.

Here’s the logical certainty.  The space that crap is taking up is space you do need today.  The money you pay out every month for bigger digs is money you can use today and in the future.  Savings that will serve you, house, support and care for you.

Feeling better?  Ready to give it a try?  Good!  Because the thing that fear hates most of all is a challenge.  Courage.  The willingness to take a risk.

Get a box or a bag.  Put something in it.  Get it out of your house.  If it has some intrinsic value, donate it to a thrift shop, sell it on Kijiji, put it out on the curb with a giant, happy FREE sign.  Just get it out of your house.

Oh Yes!  It's Free!

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Then, come back in.  Polish up and appreciate the empty space.  Put some fresh flowers in it.  Take a picture of it.  Sit in it, if it’s big enough.  Just enjoy the spaciousness, the freedom.  Realize that you haven’t just gotten rid of some useless crap, you’ve gotten rid of fear

Whoo!  It feels good, doesn’t it?

Lovely empty floor space

Tomorrow I’m going to help you try to figure out how much you should reasonably keep.  It’s a slightly different approach to the clutter question, but it works really well, especially in tight quarters.

But please let me know.  What are you most afraid to let go of? (It’s books for me…)

Reader Question – Organizing Computer Files

In what I hope will be an ongoing feature here at Happy Simple, we have a reader question!

CVH writes:

I have been happily simplifying for the past decade or so and now I am really trying to put my money where my mouth is regarding paper files and regarding what tools I use on my Mac.  My biggest question right now, is how do I organize my computer files?  By design, I am a visual spatial learner so it really helps to see everything but at the same time I know that a cluttered desktop is super unproductive (see Leo Babauta).  Sooooo…I am seeking the insights of those who are living the life I want to live where everything has a purpose and a place. 

Any insights/words of wisdom you can offer are so welcome!

I have to confess that I’m just starting to get around to tidying up my computer files.  At the moment, I feel like closing the cover on my netbook makes all the clutter disappears. Tralala!

Also I know nothing about Macs.

I have been making (I think) good use of Twitter.  The people I follow are organized into lists. I highly recommend doing this if you plan to follow more than a half-dozen people.  Just remember that the list titles you choose can be seen by others.

Because I’m active on Twitter, I don’t feel the need to bookmark blogs if the blogger is also active on Twitter.  We all announce our new posts, so I can find them that way.  This makes my blog bookmarks far more manageable.

I also favourite links to individual articles on Twitter and find them again that way.  Let’s face it, most articles are read once and don’t need to be referred to again and again, so unless I know I’ll want to find it easily later, I don’t bother bookmarking it on my computer.

And just a word about the Leo Babauta reference.  Yes, he is very organized.  His blog is beautifully soothing and restful.  And he has worked really hard to find ways of living and organizing that work for him.  I’m a huge fan and I think it’s wonderful that he shares these tips with the world.  And if they work for you, fabulous!  But some of them won’t.  And some of the tips I offer won’t either.  It’s important to figure out what works for you and then give yourself a big pat on the back for doing that.  Don’t feel bad that you can’t live like Leo Babauta or Barb McMahon.  OK?

If any of you have ideas for how to organize your computer files, and special tools for Macs, please post them in the comments.

And, of course, if you have any questions you’d like me to tackle, send them in to: barb DOT alan AT gmail DOT com.  I love to hear from you!

The Jet Set Lifestyle and Clutter

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When Alan and I fly anywhere, we only bring carry on luggage.  It takes a bit of doing to edit the list of things I might need down to a lightly-packed small bag.  But it’s so totally worth it.  I travel light and I’m not faced with a million choices of what to wear in the morning when I just want to head out the door and start exploring.

In the last few years, we’ve started escorting friends and family members on trips to France.  They’re happy that we can do the introductions for them.  But at first they’re nervous about the luggage restrictions.  We give them a list of suggestions.  And assure them that they will, in fact, survive.

If they haven’t been convinced by the ease with which we get through the airport and onto the  plane, they certainly are when we get to waft right past baggage claim and out of the airport a good hour ahead of our fellow travellers.  It’s just so liberating!

I don’t know how our travelling companions feel about the experience once they get home, if that sense of freedom stays with them, but it makes me want to travel through my entire life that way.

Fewer choices make decision-making a non-issue.  When you have just one jacket or pair of dress shoes, well, you just put them on and go.  Add more choices and the time spent making decisions seems to grow exponentially.

Fewer bits and pieces in the house mean less time spent cleaning, sorting and organizing them, leaving me more time to explore my own place in the world.

And come moving day?  Well, the less crap I have to pack up and take with, the closer I am to that feeling I have as I walk past the baggage claim.

No, I haven’t achieved minimalist nirvana yet.  I’m still fallible, gullible even, open to the lure of the easy purchase.   But I’m getting closer to the mark.  And it feels really darned good.

How about you?  Does going through life “carry on only” appeal to you?  Or do you like a certain amount of clutter?

Are You Afraid of the Stuff Police?

Decluttering

When you’re little, your space is not your own.  Even if you have your own room, it’s probably filled with the furniture your parents gave you and there are limits on what you can and cannot keep in there.  You must have a bed.  No, you cannot keep the neighbour’s dog.

It can take awhile as a grownup to realize that these rules no longer hold.  To realize that you get to have in your house the things that you want in there and you don’t have to have the things you don’t really want (unless the person you share living space with disagrees and then you’ll have  to learn to negotiate).  To realize, in fact, that there are no Stuff Police.

The first step to decluttering is to decide if you really need to.  If you like a certain amount of flotsam around you but your mother disapproves, well, let her tidy her own house.  But, if you’re at all like me, you find minimalism soothing, restful.  Definitely worth pursuing.

Which is when you can find yourself running head first into the thinking that there are some things that everyone must have, like good china, a dryer, a cd collection.  We’ve done away with all of those and never looked back.  We don’t own a TV or microwave either and don’t miss them at all.

I don’t tell you this to brag or because I believe it’s wrong to have these things.  If they give you pleasure, or make your life easier, keep them, but if you find yourself wishing you didn’t have to bother with them, well, guess what?  YOU DON’T HAVE TO BOTHER WITH THEM!

If the thought of living without any of this is giving you palpitations, don’t worry about it.  You’re still welcome at this blog.  This isn’t about living up to anyone else’s arbitrary standards.  It’s about figuring out what does and doesn’t work for you and living in a way that serves you best.

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