Category Archives: Happy Living

Playing the “Well at Least” Game

This is what the weather was like here yesterday morning and many, many recent mornings as I’ve headed out to walk to work.  Not really my definition of pleasant.  Couple that with the fact that I’m not what anyone would call a morning person and it can be a bit of a struggle to motivate myself out the door and down the sidewalk.

But I hate being grumpy even more than I hate being cold, so as I shuffle through the wind and snow, I play a few rounds of the “Well at Least” game.  As in, “Well at least plowing through all this stuff is really building up my leg muscles!”  or “Well at least once I get to the office I won’t have to run downstairs every two hours to feed the meter, as I would if I drove.”  And, once a week, “Well at least it’s Friday and I can rest up over the weekend.”

I don’t know about you, but I can only really cheer myself up if the benefits are derived directly from the task at hand (or the fact that it’s nearly done).  “Well at least I have a job” or “Well at least I have legs” are too big-picture and disconnected from the moment to work for me. 

Do you have games like that to get you through unpleasant moments?  Does big-picture thinking help or do keep it small and shallow, too?

I found this little post over on Apartment Therapy and thought some of you might enjoy it too.  The Lazy Woman’s Guide to Living Without Piles and Clutter is a fresh take on organizing/decluttering that lets you actually work with your personality instead of getting tough with yourself.  

Enjoy!

Celebrating Winter in All Its Stark Beauty

I’m just in from shovelling out the end of the driveway, and even though the calendar says we’ve a few more weeks before winter officially begins,  I’ve decided to start celebrating early.

As with summer and autumn, I’ll just list a few of my random favourites and turn it over to you.

Winter is not my favourite season.  It’s a little extreme for my tastes, but it has its moments, like:

  • Some days, just walking to the end of your driveway is such a major workout, there’s no need for a gym membership.
  • The smell of woodsmoke drifting through the snowflakes in the air, especially when you’re out at the end of the day, or in the evening.
  • Multiple opportunities for snuggling!
  • The subtleties of winter photography.
  • Fat and funny squirrels.

Hey!  I could actually go on!  This is a great exercise for just about anything you think you don’t really like.  But now it’s your turn.  Please let us all know what you love about winter (and have a lovely weekend!).

When Being Organized is a Bad Idea

I posted this video over on the HappySimple Facebook page last week.  Just in case you didn’t see it, I thought I’d post it here as well.  I love the utter ridiculousness of the idea of tidying up art.

And I hope that you can take that lesson into your everyday life.  And know that there are times when being organized and tidy are good, like when you have reports that need doing, or blog posts to write or other point A to point B activities.  

A tidy enough house can make daily life smoother and more pleasant (and you get to pick what constitutes enough).

But there are times when being organized and tidy actually gets in the way of living.  Like when your baby is fussy and needs a cuddle.  Or when you want to spend time with the one you love.  In fact, if you don’t guard those moments lovingly and fiercely, you can organize them right out of existence.

I have a friend who repeatedly tries to get more organized.  And I applaud her efforts.  But I hope, I mean, I really, truly hope she knows that her lack of organization  is one of her most endearing qualities.  Cups of tea appear before you and she will literally drop everything, on the floor if necessary, to sit down and have a visit.   What could be more charming, more life-affirming, what could possibly be better than that?

So, yes, get organized if you want to.  Just remember to guard the precious bits.  Like a modern painting, they thrive on chaos.

The I Did It List

Don't fence me in!

I have a love-hate relationship with To Do lists.  I get really rebellious and ‘don’t fence me in’ at the thought of putting too many of my days’ activities into list form.  And yet, I have to admit that they’re really handy for reminding me to do things.

So I am a marginal list maker.  Three to five things and I make the rest up as I go along.

But this video from Marianne Cantwell of Free Range Humans has given me enthusiasm for a whole new kind of list.  Not the things I need to do, but the triumphs and achievements I have actually done.

As she says, we so quickly forget what a big deal something is the second after we’ve accomplished it.  Maybe keeping an I Did It List along with the usual To Do List would be a good idea.  Certainly for those “I’m total crap” moments we all have from time to time.

What do you think?  Do you record and celebrate your accomplishments?  Do you think it would help if you did?

Celebrating Things That Take Time

This took awhile....

Today was going to be my first product launch.

I can’t tell you how excited I am to have come up with an idea for something to sell here, to share with people, to hopefully offer some encouragement to you.  All I can say right now is that it’s pretty cool.  And it’s not an e-book.

So I started into the process of setting things up for my little Friday launch.

And immediately started hitting the roadblocks and finding out that there’s a whole lot I need to learn that I didn’t know I needed to learn.

But that’s the fun of a new project, right?  You get to accept new challenges and learn new stuff.  And there are parts of the process that force you to just wait.  And wait.  And wait some more.

This particular part of the process is out of my hands.  So I’m waiting.  With all my little duckies lined up in a row.  Waiting.  Waiting.  Waiting.

The thing is?  I’m really not good with the whole waiting thing.

You’d think that after writing this blog for over  a year now, I’d have some insight into patience and calmness.  Some magical method for slowing down and enjoying the process.  My method involves hyperventilating and crying a lot.  Which, while it’s a pretty good workout and releases a lot of tension in a big hurry, also tends to scare the people around you who are just trying to help.

But I’ve had a bit of time to think about it and here’s what I’ve come up with. 

One is that if life happened on the schedule we set for it, it would likely all be over in about two weeks and then what would we do?

I mean, who, on their first day of university, doesn’t dream of graduation?  What parent, holding their newborn in their arms doesn’t give at least a passing thought to future grandchildren? 

If it all happened as we dreamed it, it would all be over so quickly and we’d miss all the little moments of delight and, yes, frustration that make life worth living.

The other thing is that waiting is temporary.  Fortunately I’ve done it enough by now to know that.  And when the waiting is over, when we’ve got what we were waiting for, or even when we don’t, but we’ve decided to move on, once that result has been achieved, the waiting itself fades away to doesn’t matter.

Which brings me to the picture at the start of this post.  It’s a silver lace vine that I planted in my backyard in the spring of 2009.  Billed as a rampant spreader, I was careful to plant it on a free-standing structure well away from the surrounding trees, stood back and waited for the magic to happen.  And waited.  And waited. 

It didn’t grow much last summer.  And it certainly didn’t bloom.  I was very relieved that it survived the winter.  But it took till just a couple weeks ago to fill the structure I had envisioned as being green and lush and lovely a whole year and a half ago.

And then the other day I noticed a few little flowers!  The magic had happened!  Yay!  Cheering and photos and happy.  And the waiting goes away.

There’s a bottle of wine chilling in the fridge for when my plans come to fruition (and they will and I will let you know about them).  But this weekend, I will be celebrating life.  And the fact that it doesn’t all happen at once.  I will enjoy this moment right here.

How ‘bout you?  What are you waiting for these days?  How do you relax and enjoy the here and now while waiting for the magic to happen?

 

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