Clutter. Weight gain. Financial insecurity. What do they have in common?
Well, looked at from a certain angle, they can be seen to come down to the question of trust.
I don’t know about you, but I like to have things pretty much sewn up. I like to know what’s happening and when. I like to know, for sure, that everything will be OK. Because anything else involves trust, and I ‘m not very good at that. So I stockpile supplies a bit. I eat a little more than I should. I worry about the money.
And it occurs to me that I and anyone else wrestling with these issues might be better served talking to a competent therapist and learning how to trust, how to let go of the belief that we live in a dangerous and malevolent world and can only be safe if we’re armed to the teeth with spare staplers, outgrown clothes, snack foods and three year old issues of our favourite magazines. That we need a million dollars in savings just to be able to get out of bed in the morning. We’ll probably be further ahead spending our money on that than on yet another organizer or gym membership or productivity system.
I find it so much easier to clean up and get things done when I’m able to believe in the people around me and their willingness to help out should I ever need it. I can declutter like the best of them when I’m secure in the belief that there is plenty of stuff to go around and should I ever need another one of these things, chances are I’ll be able to find it. And I can say no to seconds when I remind myself that the fridge works and there’s always tomorrow’s lunch to finish this tasty, tasty meal.
But the biggest hurdle to get over, the one that gives the biggest reward (isn’t that always the way?) is learning to trust myself. To trust, not that the Universe will provide whatever I need whenever I need it, cuz, seriously, I just can’t swallow that one. I mean, it might. It often does. But if it doesn’t? I need to learn to trust that I’ll be able to use my brains to come up with a decent alternative. I’ll invent, improvise, make do or move on.
How about you? Where do you stand on the trust question?